How to be Original in Lolita

So, you'd like to add a dash of your own personality and uniqueness to your Lolita coordinates? Fantastic! Here's some tips to help you do it.


  • Keep a Lolita silhouette.
  • Make sure your colors match.
  • Make sure everything else matches, too. 
  • Try not to get too crazy, originality is great but you still want your co-ordinate to be easily recognizable as being Lolita.
  • Plenty of research. Gain as much knowledge about Lolita fashion as possible and it will be even easier to create your own style. 
  • Keep in mind that some Lolitas may dislike your co-ordinate and be open to positive criticism. 
  • Try to make your outfit look as nice as possible, put effort into it. Laziness just doesn't look good.


  • Try to be completely unique and original. There is a certain point at which breaking too many of the "rules" makes your outfit just not Lolita anymore. It's okay to break one or two as long as you still keep the Lolita silhouette. 
  • Try to be unique with your first Lolita outfit. You wouldn't try to create your own recipe while you have little cooking experience and barely any ingredients, would you? Same here, chances are if you have only just gotten your first Lolita outfit, you don't have the means or the experience to make it "original". Get the hang of it first and wait until you have more clothes to experiment with. 
  • Break all the rules for the sake of breaking all the rules. Understand that they are only there to keep Lolita fashion being the fashion that it is instead of turning into something else. 


A Secret World

 Some girls wear Lolita as a form of escapism, and I guess to a certain extent I do too. I'm still fully aware of reality of course, but... I'm also in my own secret world. A beautiful one. When you look at someone who is wearing Lolita, at least when I do, it looks almost as though they've stepped out of a fairytale land into our reality, doesn't it? I guess maybe that's one of the reasons we love Lolita so much.
Just a thought.


Small update and notice

Hello everyone! Just wanted to let all of you know that I'll be deleting some old blog posts soon that I don't believe benefit this blog whatsoever, and that I should have some more posts soon. Sorry I haven't blogged as much as I should lately, life has been pretty busy! I have a meet up soon, I've had doctor visits lately, I have to get my cat vaccinated, ect. So yes, my life is pretty busy right now but pretty much a good way!


More ignorance in the media

As if Lolitas hadn't been portrayed badly enough in the past, now someone is actually making a movie called "Are all men pedophiles?" and using a picture of a Lolita as their promotional poster. Please excuse me while I facepalm. There is a petition against this if you'd like to sign it, here.


Humans are cowards in the face of happiness

"Humans are cowards in the face of happiness." I heard this quote from the movie Kamikaze Girls and at first I didn't believe it to be true. Who would be afraid of happiness? But then I thought about it, and it is true sometimes. Sometimes we're too afraid of what other people will think of us to do, wear, think ect. what we truly want. On the topic of wearing what we truly want, some people consider that selfish. Lolita clothing isn't exactly cheap ( even only buying replicas or Bodyline adds up ) especially if you want an entire wardrobe to wear everyday, so they say it's selfish to spend so much on yourself ( usually adding the whole "people are starving in Africa" argument or something similar to it ). Is it selfish to love yourself? These same people probably buy decorations for their home, beauty products, jewelry or other beautiful things that are not necessary when that money could've been spent on those less fortunate than they. Am I saying that's wrong? Not at all. Hypocritical yes, wrong, no. My point is, I don't consider Lolita fashion or any sort of fashion selfish in and of itself whatsoever. Selfishness is putting yourself ahead of others, not loving and expressing who you are.The sad thing is, I've seen some girls turn away from the fashion because even though they loved it, they thought it was selfish to spend so much on themselves.
I guess sometimes, sadly, we are cowards in the face of happiness after all.

Of course, Kamikaze Girls isn't exactly the best representation of the fact that Lolita fashion is not selfish, but it's a good movie nonetheless.


The Rise of OTT Classic

As OTT Sweet goes down in popularity, it seems to me like OTT Classic Lolita is rising in it! Me being a fan of the over-the-top, even though I'd prefer OTT Sweet I still am intrigued by OTT Classic and hope to be seeing more of it in the future. However, how is one to pull off such a style? I've recently stumbled across this genius little guide that should help to answer that question.

Next, I want to see OTT everything else, especially OTT Gothic Lolita! 
So, what do you think of OTT Classic? Love it, hate it? Do you think it won't catch on or do you think it will become the next OTT Sweet?